Five reason handwritten note

Five Excellent Reasons to Write The Handwritten Letter

The handwritten letter…when was the last time you wrote one and sent it? When was the last time you received one. Guess what? Here is your chance. Starting April 1s,  it is not only national poetry month but it is also the beginning of national letter writing month. As someone who makes cards that are blank inside, I wanted to give you five excellent reasons to embark on writing a card or letter to a loved one. As a child, I used to delight in getting letters in the mail, special notes from people I love, letters from penpals in different parts of the world and cards from other friends or family members. They were like getting little presents. Even now, as an adult,  I have one friend who will send me a surprise postcard or note in the mail and I’m always delighted just by the thought that goes into it. Sure, we chat on the computer and through email but is not the same as getting an actual letter in the mail. I even enjoy sending my readers here handwritten notes. Though they happen less frequently as my arthritis has become worse, I still enjoy it. That is why Your Five Excellent Reasons are handwritten…just for you. Who will you send a note to today??

Why would you want to write a letter when sending a text message or email could be so much quicker? Here are the Five Excellent Reasons that sending a handwritten note is so important for you have the recipient.

awesome pleasurable tips

Ten Minute Tuesday: 11 Awesome Tips to Make Your Day Pleasurable

Recently I was propose the question,” what can you do to make your day more pleasurable?”
So I reflected over the things that I do that add pleasure to each day. These are not things I do all once but I attempt to do one to three of them a day. In doing so, and make my day a little more pleasurable.

  1. First one is kind of obvious as it shows up more more ideas of self-care and pursuit of happiness. It is 5 to 10 minute meditation in the beginning at some point during the day. Time and agin studies have shown that by allowing ourselves even just five minutes to focus on our breath helps relieve stress and anxiety. The result of which allows us to have room to experience more pleasure or happiness.
  2. Smile. Not fake smile or pretend smiling. Make an honest effort to smile at someone. The person sitting next to you or the stranger you walk by, someone you are talking to, or even in the mirror at yourself. Smiling uses different muscles in your face and in fact releases tension. Try laughing as well. Read a funny meme or watch a funny short video. Laughter and smiling are pleasurable experiences.
  3. Attempt to eat one healthy meal or snack during the day. Not only is it good for your body but certain foods are actually mood boosters and can make us feel better. Think dark chocolate (just one oz), fruits and vegetables, foods high in B-12, fish, and certain nuts. Not only do these foods improve your mood but we get a little boost when we accomplish something like eating healthy. I challenge to look up a new recipe that is healthy and try it out. See how it makes you feel.
  4. Take a break. We were not made to go through our day without breaks. Our biorhythms aren’t made that way. There is a reason most people need to stop around 10 and then around 3 if they are working an 8-5 schedule. It is because we experience a natural dip in our body rhythms signaling a need for a quick break. Pay attention to it. Working through our breaks adds to our stress not reduce it. No matter where you work or even if you are someone who doesn’t work in a traditional job, take a break. Your body needs it.
  5. Connection. Spend a few minutes connecting with someone you care about. People are not meant to be in isolation. We need, even crave human connection. It is essential to our survival. Could we live without human connection…it is possible but there is a reason that infants can fail to thrive simply because there is no human connection. It does our psyche well to seek out human connection, especially with those we can trust. Most of the time, I feel better after speaking with such a person. It reminds us we are not alone. And it takes me to the next thing.
  6. Get out of yourself. If we are talking to a friend and listening to them, we are out of our own heads. Another way to get out of yourself is to commit to some kind of service it a way that is comfortable for you. But whatever it is, it has to be bigger than just you. So maybe it is a non-profit, or involvement in a recovery program, teaching art to underprivileged kids. Maybe it is that you take the old woman down the street a hot meal once a week. The point is to give back to the world and put ourselves in perspective with the world. Often giving back makes us just feel good too.
  7. Build a “pick me up” into your day. Give yourself something to look forward to at some point. A good book, a chance to curl up on the couch with a movie or cuddle someone you love. Maybe it is a bubble bath or a game of basketball with friends. Whatever it is, the goal is for it to be pleasurable and something to look forward to. Some quick ideas could be tied to your ten minute break: a piece of dark chocolate, or an iced coffee, pick up your favorite magazine. Just make sure you allow yourself a “pick me up” moment.
  8. Make a List. Now, this one doesn’t seem as obvious but let me explain. I have found this kind of list SO HELPFUL. So I keep a running list next to me through out the day. It is so if I have an idea for something while I am in the middle of another project or chore, I can just jot it down real quick. Then I don’t have to stress over trying to remember and I can stay focused on what I am currently doing.It isn’t necessarily a “to-do” list. Sometimes they are topic ideas, things I want to google later, pictures I want to take. It is a random list but it makes my life much more pleasurable than trying to remember that “thing” that I forgot.
  9. Ok. Disclaimer: I LOVE LOVE my coffee. BUT there is such a thing as too much caffeine especially later in the day, early evening. It can mess with our sleep patterns if we are not careful about how much or when we drink it. I have been known to drink coffee at night, mostly for the taste but that is rare and I tend to be awake late already. Christmas Eve I won’t even tell you how much coffee I have consumed. That being said, sleep is essential to happiness and too much caffeine makes one jittery not happy. You don’t have to give it up, just seek a pleasurable middle ground.
  10. Be Creative! Add some creative time into your day. What is your creative pleasure? Painting, coloring, writing, drawing…? Whatever it is, do it. One of my favorite shows is NCIS, I make no apologies for it, and one of the main characters, Gibbs, is ALWAYS working on a boat. It is what brings him pleasure after chasing bad guys. Find your “boat”. If you aren’t sure, experiment. Try a coloring book, or drawing mandala’s. Play with play dough or create a new recipe from scratch. Sometimes you may find you have a couple of creative tools to turn to, even better. Creativity releases stress, and is just plain FUN.
  11. Improved Canvas.

    Finally, Express Gratitude. Being grateful for what we have is a good reminder of how happy we are in our current moment. Yes, things can be worse But look at the good I have right now. People who regularly express gratitude tend to me happier and less stressed. Sounds like a ticket to putting some pleasure into my day. Keep it simple if you need to, just list three things. Overtime it will become a habit and will become easier to write.

This is not a proposal to do all of these things in one day. But there simple 10 minute activities that added into the day can make our day more pleasurable. In the beauty of several of these tips is that they overlap. For example connecting with somebody also satisfies the need to get out of our head. We can build a “pick me up” to look forward to in our 10 minute break. We can be creative in our 10 minute break. What things do you do to make your day more pleasurable? Let me know in the comments below.

Fourteen Tips on Self Care for theCreative Person

Fourteen Tips of Self- Care for the Creative Person

Being creative is its own form of self-care. However even creative people need to take some time out and refuel their souls. Self-care is the new trend in today’s need to tend to our body and souls that are sometimes starving from lack of attention. Creativity is one of the recommendations for self-care. If you are a working creative, who spends every day head deep in being creative, even you need some vital self-care. Here are fourteen of my favorite tips on taking care of a creative persons spirit.

  1. My first inclination when I need to take some time out is to go for a long walk somewhere where it is green and pretty. I long to be out in nature. Sometimes I take my headphones but most of the time, I simply listen to the sounds of the world around me. If I can get away, I like to take hikes, not long hikes right now, but somewhere in the forest, usually among the redwoods, is my favorite place to go. There are times when all I can do is go to the walking trail around the park near my house. Then I walk around it a couple times, maybe take my shoes off and walk barefoot in the grass. There is something calming about walking in the grass with my bare feet. It is as though I’m being grounded to the earth again.
  2.  My next suggestion is to pick up a good book. Honestly, I recommend two books: one for just for fun and the second something I want to learn more about. When I am doing this kind of self-care, I am giving myself permission to step away from the tasks of writing or doing crafts and spend some time filling my mind with words. I love reading and can often devour a book or two in a weekend. Sometimes though, I savor them and they will last me at least a week. The last few books I have read that were for learning for by Brene’ Brown and Elizabeth Gilbert. Brene’ Brown’s book, The Gifts of Imperfection, actually made me break my rule of not writing in books. I highlighted so much because I wanted to hold on to all that I could and surprisingly I did. I consider all her books life-changing. The other book, Big Magic by Elizabeth Gilbert was also incredible and such an inspiration for a creative person. If you are creative, I highly recommend reading this and filling your soul with its stories.
  3.  Slow down. Find some place to sit in the cool of the evening and watch the sun set. When I was much younger my friend and I would drive out on the country roads listening to music. Then we found the perfect spot to park on the side of the road, sit on the car hood with sandwiches and watch the sunset nearly every weekend. It had such a profound effect that I can still see the sun sets in my mind nearly 20 years later.
  4. Let’s color. There are so many adult coloring books out there right now. You can pick them up anywhere from the department stores to the craft stores and I’ve even seen them in the drugstores and once at a gas station. Coloring has been proven recently to release stress and tension and allows the mind to relax.
  5. On Pinterest once, I saw someone set up a inflatable pool in their backyard filled with pillows and blankets in order to watch the stars. I recommend this. Though it’s getting harder with more light pollution in my neighborhood, I still sometimes like to sit on the porch with a blanket in the evening and watch the stars overhead. Or better yet, my friend and I sometimes like to walk late at night so we can see the stars while we walk. My recommendation is maybe you can get an air mattress laid out on the lawn in the backyard with pillows and blankets lay down and watch the stars; maybe watch them with someone you love.
  6. Journaling. I cannot say enough about journaling. There are more ways to Journal than I can possibly mention here: there is brain dump journaling, art journaling, bullet journaling, journaling with prompts, journaling about your past, and the list can go on. There are as many ways to Journal as there are people. But there’s something to be said for writing down your thoughts, clearing them out of our heads to make way for new thoughts and new ideas. My favorite form is the brain dump. I usually do this at night before bed. I pour everything that’s been in my brain on the paper. Some of it is good and some of it’s bad, sometimes a review of the day, and other times it’s just reflective. It’s basically anything. I think that’s why it works for me. I also like some kinds of art journaling where I am journaling on a theme or an idea but I haven’t worked with that as much.
  7. Meditation is a word that is being thrown around a lot these days. I know many people have this image of someone sitting perfectly still for 20 minutes, 30 minutes, or an hour and fully focused and not moving. But meditation can be simple. It can be sitting with your mind quiet for five minutes. Or you can try guided meditations by using YouTube or audio recordings. I have found I like to read a reflection and meditate on that for about five minutes. I like to have something I can focus on when I meditate. Though, if I’m sitting in nature, like at the beach, I listen to the sound of the ocean waves and slowly go into a deep meditative state where I can sit for an hour or more.
  8. Try an art activity with friends. I talked about this briefly in Taking Your Artist Date in a New Direction. Pick a friend or two and go do something together: a painting place or a ceramic shop or take a class like a dance class or a cooking class. The point is that sometimes it’s all about just having a little fun and having it with our friends. Our friends are a great source of reminding ourselves that we need to take care of our souls.
  9. Making intentions list. I did this at the beginning of the year instead of writing out goals ever out intentions things that I am mindful about creating in my life rather than setting a goal to master. This made more sense to me and is easier for me to accomplish. When I get lost I can easily go back to my intentions list and get myself back on the right shirt direction again. I also try to keep my intentions in different categories so that I’m a little more balanced and different aspects of my life. Here’s the sheet. New Year Five &Five List
  10. Visit any water location near you. Water is cleansing and grounding and can make us reconnect with her and ourselves whether it is the ocean a river a favorite lake it doesn’t matter. Water has amazing soothing capacity.
  11. Move your body stretch it out. I know we all can’t afford to do yoga classes and sometimes we think we can’t even do yoga. Personally, I have not yet tried yoga. I’m afraid to. But I have watched videos on stretching on YouTube and on a couple of health websites. Your body needs to stretch. It needs to feel the full length of its muscles and be in tune with itself for it to function fully. Stretching does get our minds back in touch with our bodies and our body in touch with our mind and is essential for centering ourselves.
  12. Treat yourself to a movie night. Pick a favorite movie, pop some popcorn, cuddle up with your favorite blanket and just chill. Or is there new movie how you want to see? Take yourself to the movie theater. Treat yourself to a movie. You can go alone or with friends it doesn’t matter. For me going to the movies as a treat especially with the cost and having three kids. So most of the time I wait for the DVDs. But when I do get a movie I really want to see is an exceptional treat and I thoroughly enjoy it. I get to be in the moment with the movie.
  13. Take yourself a little day trip. Hop over to the next city or town over or someplace you haven’t been before. Play tourist. Go do touristy things: looking all the little shops, have a little snack, take some pictures. Just enjoy the area that is new to you.
  14. Create a positive morning or evening routine. I often start out my mornings by reading a reflection or sometimes two. It helps to center and focus myself to start the day. I also start off with a cup of coffee and my routine of watching a little bit of morning news with just me and my dog while the kids sleep. This is my little time to myself. When it gets disrupted, I can feel it in my whole day. Having a consistent routine is good for our self-care for our body likes to predict what is happening next and is comforted by that knowledge.

There you have it. Fourteen tips on taking care of yourself. Our creativity depends on our ability to know when and how to implement some self-care. It is not an act of selfishness; it is necessary. We are not little bunnies running on batteries. We are human beings and are very complicated. When we take care of ourselves, our bodies and our minds, it makes it so much easier to take care of the rest of our life and our family and friends.

We are the Believers

We are the Believers and we Believe…

We are the believers. We are the fun-makers, and bringers of messiness in a world that longs to remain neat and clean.

We are the creators, the artists, the ones who know that creativity is vital to our very soul and without it, we could not breathe.

We are the ones who do not stand in the same footsteps but create footsteps of our own. We are path makers, storytellers, and travelers through life. We may never leave our own neighborhood but with our creative minds we have walked the whole universe and back again.

We believe because not believe would make the world dull, colorless, and mundane. We want variety, color, and energy.

We believe even when our creative struggles are at their worst, they are more fun than not being creative at all.

We know. We know to the very core of our creative selves that creativity is necessary for our life and spirit to be sane.

We are the Creatives. We will never stop believing. 

Fika Tuesday

Ten Minute Tuesday: Introducing “Fika”

“Fika is Swedish for a coffee break that’s more about socializing than drinking coffee. And something sweet is also welcome.”
“Fika is much more than having a coffee. It is a social phenomenon, a legitimate reason to set aside a moment for quality time. Fika can happen at any time, morning as well as evening. It can be savoured at home, at work or in a café. It can be with colleagues, family, friends, or someone you are trying to get to know. It is a tradition observed frequently, preferably several times a day.”
https://sweden.se/culture-traditions/fika/

I was recently introduced to this idea of Fika through something I found on Pinterest. Since I like collecting words and ideas from other cultures I decided to do some research. When it comes to the concept of Fika, I am delightfully surprised. I like this idea. It reminds me of the practice of mindfulness. It reminds me of the practice of being in the present moment, the here and now enjoying the cup of coffee in front of you, the sweet treat in front of you and the company with you; and also being away from the telephones, the computers, work, and  the busyness that swallows us up sometimes.
How lovely to find a couple of moments a day to enjoy a savored cup of coffee and that little treat either alone or with company. From its description I gather that this is not about the quick 10 or 15 minute rushed break that we often find in retail jobs or busy offices. Or the breaks that we skip and eat at our desks because we feel we cannot stop working. Instead I imagine rather a slow mindful conversation sitting at tables and chairs.
This is Ten minute Tuesday, so my challenge to you today is instead of rushing through your cup of coffee or heating it up and letting it get cold at your desk over and over again, I want you to pour your cup of coffee or your cup of tea and to take a light snack and intentionally sit away from where you are working; sit and drink your coffee mindfully. If possible, invite a friend or coworker to sit with you and chat, not about work. Pay attention to what each other says. Just for ten minutes.

What does it feel like to not rush? What does it feel like to pay attention to what is in front of you just for that moment? How does it feel when you are done?

Credits: Ulf Lundin/imagebank.sweden.se
Ten Creative Ways to Say

Ten Creative Ways to Say “I Love You”

1) Create their favorite meal
* Pick a day and create a special meal just for the two of you to share.  This is something you can with a best friend, your partner, or kids. It works for whomever you wish to say “I love you.”

2) Create a ”You” Day
*Dedicate one day to what it is they would love to do. Whether it is watching their favorite movies,  going to the park, or driving to the mountains; it is their day

3)  “Pass a note”
*Sneak a note in their lunchbox. Write a letter and mail it to their office or work.

4)  Mail a letter home for them to receive.

5) Learn “I love you” in other languages, put it on notes around the house or in their car or in their lunchbox.

6) Print this out : You are a Blessing in my life.  Put it somewhere where they can see it.

7) Ask them “What can I help you with?”

8) Show them support on a dream or goal they would like to follow.

9) Learn their favorite color and create a photo collage of things in that color for them to put on their wall.

10) Remember the small things
*Try to remember their favorite drink, how they like their eggs cooked, what their favorite outfit is, what their favorite place to eat is, or what do they like to do to relax. It’s these little things that often matter the most. It shows we are paying attention.

In search of a Niche

Susan: In Search of a Niche

In the world of blog posting you’re supposed to have a niche, a place that you belong, which fits your specific topic. I have recently discovered that this is a form of writing that does not suit me. I may not get sponsors or affiliates or other ways to monetize my blog. And I think I’m okay with that. I don’t write every week because I hope that I can reach thousands of people and in that process make money. I write what I write about because I love it. I post the topics that I find most valuable to me and those that I love. See my dear readers, I post about what’s important to my heart and my soul and I expect nothing back. It could be that my blog will never make a single dime. It could be that my blog will reach only a few hundred readers and that is okay with me too.
I drowned myself in reading about ways to make money with my blog. I drowned myself and trying to learn how to create affiliate links and to get sponsors and find other ways to monetize my blog such as such as e-books, workshops and other services. The blogs that provide the services do make money and I respect them for what they do. But that is not me.  Would  I love to make money doing what I do on my blog? Sure. I would certainly love to have my blog bring me an income that I can live off of but I will not do it at the sacrifice of creating material and writing that comes from my soul. I would much rather you have it for free and for both of us to feel we have gained something from the relationship.

There may come a time, when I may find the right affiliate or the right sponsor and I will include them in a blog post or on my sidebar, but until that time comes, it’s  just me and you trying to figure out creativity in this crazy world. I know for now I do not fit into any particular niche or corner of the blogging world. I am a mix of creativity, crafting, lifestyle, and personal growth. And I am okay with that. I don’t see that changing. Maybe you take some and leave some. Maybe some will speak to you and some will not, that’s okay too. I’m not trying to win a popularity contest. And I am no longer in high school, where I feel I must belong to a certain group of people in order to be cool. I think what makes me cool is being true to who I am and I hope, that you are here because you were also okay and pretty darn cool for being who you are.

So from now on, you will see even more of a mix from me as I write about things that I am passionate about: photgraphy and writing, crafts that I find exciting and fun, maybe a soapbox once in a while just for the hell of it, but mostly you’ll find that I will continue to write about the creativity that I find so precious and so valuable in a world that still expects us to conform to standardized formats in order to make a living. Maybe making your living should not only be about money, but rather about what brings greater happiness or at least allows for the pursuit of happiness. Much thanks to you all for being such dedicated readers. I look forward to getting to know you in my blogging journey.

In honor of this declaration, I am providing  you with get some new freebies for you to use your creative life. The first of which is a PDF file of a 30 Day Journal Giveaway. Happy journaling and good luck.

A Creative

For You: A Creative Manifesto

This is something I have been working on for you for a while now. I have been trying to figure out how to get the wording right for what I felt it should say. Then I realized, I had already said all that it needed to say. I had made affirmations and written posts that included the concepts of “A Creative Manifesto.” It could be that it is not a traditional manifesto. And to be honest, I do not care if its a perfect example of a manifesto. This is my creative statement. It can be your creative statement, if you need one to borrow. I am sharing it with you. Why? Because of all the people that deserve a creative manifesto, it is you my dear friends that have stuck with me through this growing blog of mine. Just as I claimed in my dedication that my blog is not perfect, and I am not perfect, this manifesto may not be perfect (for everyone) but it is for me. It can be good enough for you too, if you want it to. So borrow it. Share it. Call others to creativity’s altar with it. We need more people who believe in the wondrous realm of creativity. You have been invited, so do not be afraid to invite others to play as well. My greatest wish for you is to read this and say “Yes!”. “Yes, this is what I want to hear.” In our busy lives we forget how important and precious such a thing as creativity is. It is often balked at, put down or worse dismissed as unnecessary. But you and I know that isn’t true. Creativity is essential to our very lives. It is the gift we are born with and entitled too. So print it out and put it above your desk. Hand it to a friend. Post it to your Facebook page. Share it in whatever form feels right to you and know you are part of an amazing movement to bring creativity out of its corner where it has been hiding, and bringing back into the light. I am so grateful for you. You are why I write. You are the sunshine of my blog and I thank you. Many happy creative adventures to you.                                        a creative manifesto pdf

creative dedication

How to Step up Your Creative Dedication

Have you ever dedicated yourself to something?

Have you ever felt the call to pursue a path so much that you knew that no matter if you failed or succeeded you would follow the path anyways.

Elizabeth Gilbert, in her book Big Magic, discusses how she dedicated herself to writing as a teenager. In her book, she says she never promised to make money or let it support her but rather she would support and help her writing grow. I thought about this concept in depth the last few days after finishing her book.  I always knew I was a writer, a storyteller of some kind since I was ten. I knew. In all these years, I never thought to create an actual dedication to writing. Then I thought about it. I write this blog as often as I can. There are times when health gets in the way but I do my best to be consistent. Upon reading about Elizabeth Gilberts dedication ceremony to her writing, I made the conscious decision to create not just a dedication to writing but a dedication to my blog as well. I am still working on the writing one. Fixing some tweaks in the wording, then I am going to create a ceremony around it just for myself. See, I have been longing for a purpose with all the changes in my life over the last three or so years. So much has changed that I have felt lost in the dark. But this concept of dedication to something that I don’t have to put any expectations on but rather it becomes by purpose to take care of it, lights the darkness just a bit.

So for you my dear readers and friends. I am dedicating myself to my blog in whatever form it decides to grow and meander through it’s life. Here is my dedication to The Creating Room.

I dedicate myself to the writing of my blog. I dedicate compassion, kindness, nurturing, and love to The Creating Room. I dedicate an amount of available energy and time to providing my best possible content to the blog. My blog will not be perfect; it may never even, possibly, fit into any particular niche or category. I dedicate authenticity and myself to arrive in the posts that I write. I dedicate to sharing other content that suits the style, nature, and themes of my blog. I will not ask my blog to make me money nor shall I demand a liveable income from it. I will simple feed it what it needs to grow for the people who read it. I will continue to follow the path of caring for this blog as long as we are happy and contented with one another. 

Here is my intention:

“I will intentionally write my blog for the sole purpose of the blog itself, and for my joy and happiness.”

I know many people out there that are creating blogs for the sole purpose to make it their way to earn a living. They purposely choose to take their blog down the path of monetization. It is not that I do not want to make money with my blog but I am not going to demand that it support me when for me the blog is about the message I bring my readers and if that never makes me a penny, that is okay. I do it out of love. There is the question what would you do if you could not fail? It is a great question. But Ms.Gilbert points out the flip side which I think is more revealing, “What would you do if you knew you would fail?” What if you knew you might fail a hundred times? What would you do if you knew that there was no monetary pay-off? Would you still do it? Would you still dare to follow the path that has chose you and you have chosen it? This blog is my heart and soul on the page, revealed for the world to see. If you read it, you will know me and when we meet, you will have the advantage of knowing who I am before I know you. But I will write it anyway. Even if there are no comments, no brands vying to pay me to advertise. I write it because I love it. Does this make me any less serious than someone who makes money on their blog? No. Does it make them wrong for designing a blog to make a living? Absolutely not. In fact, I wish them nothing but the best in the world for their efforts. For me, my blog is for writing and tending to; it is for sharing ideas and exchanging thoughts; for introducing concepts and for FUN and PLAY. So, I am dedicated to my blog as I am to my other writing, simply for the sake of being called to this path. May it lead to some wonderful adventures.

How to Leave Fear Behind

How to Leave Fear Behind

Fear and Taking a Creative Risk

What am I afraid of most?

Taking creative leaps of faith. Daring to jump in with both feet and not drown in a creative dream.

Let me explain.
I make cards, pendants/keychains/magnets/, affirmation cards, and book marks. I found out about a stationary Trade show in New York; I am in California. This trade show has a lot of potential for getting my product out to other stores. I want to go. I am afraid of the $32.75 per square foot of space. A ten by ten space will cost me $3,275. That doesn’t count the cost it would take for me to get to New York in May, paying for lodging and meal expenses. Easily this trip would cost me $6,000. I don’t have that kind of money. NOT EVEN CLOSE. I may not even make it past the application process. I don’t know. I have not yet talked to anyone about it at the Trade show. But I am afraid. I am afraid that I if I apply they will say no. I am afraid I will apply and then they will say yes but I won’t be able to get there. I am afraid that I will get there and nothing will come of it. AND I am afraid that I will get there and it will be a great success. 
I realize that Elizabeth Gilbert says “fear is boring.” It is. It says the same things over and over again. It all basically adds up to “You are NOT good enough.” “You are NOT worthy enough.”
Then my self -esteem takes the hit, and the depression brain kicks in and the next thing you know, I am a total failure and I HAVEN’T EVEN TRIED anything yet. I have just thought about trying it. I thought about daring this big step. Then allowed myself to fail before I started.
So What do I do, my friends? How do I overcome this fear that is stopping me before I even try to start the adventure.
I received an e-mail from someone who works with the trade show, and due to some health issues, did not respond right away. It could have also been a little fear holding me back. So I responded today and was told the person was out of the country. She left an alternative contact. You know what fear is doing to my head right now? It’s saying, “Oh just wait until she comes back in the middle of February. It will be all right.” But it won’t. I know it. The middle of February is too late. Fear is telling me Not to contact the other person for information.
But courage. Courage is saying the opposite. Courage saw the alternate contact and said, ”Forward the e-mails. Contact them.  At least contact someone.” Courage reminds me that I can’t even expect to be denied IF I don’t ever apply. Courage tells me I can’t even begin to figure out how to pay for it, if I don’t allow them to accept me first. Courage says DO it! Courage likes Nike phrases; “Just Do It!”, it says.
I sent the email to the alternative person and will see what happens. Courage pats me on the back, and fear steps back just a little bit. It loses hold of the voices that tell me that I am not worthy or I am not enough. Courage knows that I AM WORTHY. Courage knows I AM ENOUGH.
What are you afraid of? What gets your voices all tangled in your head to convince you that you are not worthy or you are not enough? What does your courage say? What happens when you let courage speak out loud and when it takes that first step away from the fear? Does fear wince when courage comes to play?
I have read a lot of Brene’ Brown lately. I have read Elizabeth Gilbert. I have been reading the blogs that I follow about mind set and intentions and bravery. I can tell you this, We are all WORTHY. We are all ENOUGH. We are those things simply because we are humans. We are born worthy of our dreams. We are born to be enough for our dreams. YOU ARE WORTHY! YOU ARE ENOUGH! Just because YOU ARE YOU. That’s it. That’s the simple answer. Fear does it’s best to make us think we are not. It does its best to hold us back. But “Fear is Boring.” It says the same things over and over and over again. It doesn’t change it’s tactics or it’s message. Courage is stronger. It is interesting. It dares us. It challenges us. Courage says, “Go for it. You are can do this.” Tell me what does Your Courage tell you???

One of my favorite quotes ever is from Brene’ Brown. It reminds me of courage. Courage tells us to “Show up! Be Seen!”